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AUTISM RULES.

"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.

I think this is something young people in particular are confused about. My dad has always had a slightly off color sense of humor, he always feels the need to privately ask me “boy turned girl or girl turned boy?” if I mention a friend and stress said friend’s pronouns, and yet when we had repair work done in the house and the worker was listening to a podcast discussing the evils of transgender people and how to cleanse society, he went out of his way to contact the owner of the business to discuss his disappointment with that worker’s conduct and stress the negative effect that could have had if there had been trans kids in our home.

Our allies will never be perfect. They will never use the perfect language or have the perfect politics. But we have to appreciate those allies and meet them where they are, especially if they are willing to learn.

This bit from Talking for Clapping really hits on this topic.

when the power went out i heard an explosion and my boyfriend was like “a transformer probably busted” and i deadass thought he meant Optimus Prime was out there nutting

Made me think of this post

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... I can't be the only one seeing this.

If someone literally asked me to come up with the most gay trans masc sentence on earth I wouldn't be able to come up with something as spot on as this text I just sent to my bf

i feel like so many ppl on this website would benefit from acknowledging that "not experiencing something" does not mean benefitting from it. a trans woman not personally having to worry about having access to abortion is a situational benefit, but does not give her systemic privilege over me just because i do have to worry about that. a passing trans man using the bathroom safely is a situational benefit, but does not give him systemic privilege over people who can't.

i really really really really need people, especially white people, to examine why you are so obsessed with finding every single tiny perceived difference between you and the person you think is opposite of you on the gender seesaw and trying to turn that into some sort of systemic privilege they have. trans people as a class, none of us, have the power to systemically oppress each other on the basis of gender or assigned sex. none of us. many of us do, however, have the power to systemically oppress each other on the basis of race and ethnicity. and i think a lot of y'all are focusing on the gender conversation because you are incredibly uncomfortable with the one about ethnicity and especially race.